Most people would say that I am too young to say that I have successful marriage, especially being newly weds. My husband and I have a strong marriage, even when he is gone for 15 months or more at a time. In the military, you have to have a strong marriage in order to survive. We have only been married for two years, but we have been together a total of five years. We never argue, we are always laughing, playing, discovering new things about each other. We don’t let the little things get to us. Therefore, I want to share our secrets with you.
100% trust. I trust my husband more than I have ever trusted anyone in my life. In a marriage, both partners have to trust each other with their lives. If you’re a military wife, you have to trust your husband 150%+. The husband is always gone, doing training, you never know when they will be home. Wives start to worry and accuse their husband’s of cheating. Plus, if you live on a military installation, I’m sure you are used to all the rumors you hear, “gracie is sleeping with jobob.” Troops are constantly worried about where their wives are while they are deployed. But the key to successful marriage is trust. ALWAYS TRUST YOUR SPOUSE! Don’t accuse them of cheating, lying, going out on you. Unless they have given you a specific reason to think that. If you’re going into a marriage already having trust issues, your marriage could fail.
Strong Communication. I tell my husband everything. I keep no secrets from him. Why? Because he’s my best friend. I tell him everything that goes on in my daily life, I talk about my emotions, my fears, my dreams. But, I don’t only talk my husband’s ears off, I’m also a great listener. I encourage him to voice his opinion, tell me about his thoughts and concerns and I listen first fully, then give advice. Don’t interrupt each other, let one another finish first, then speak your mind. A conversation will never be fully finished until you do so. Otherwise, you’ll get side-tracked, angry toward one another, and it’s just a mess that can be prevented. Never yell at one another, never use foul language. I always feel like you can talk to someone reasonably. Talk in a calm manner, but strongly expression your feelings. Always talk!!! ALWAYS! Send each other e-mails, text messages, saying how much you love each other and how your spouse is always on your mind. Be sweet, be creative. Constantly keep the spark in your relationship! Never go to bed angry…EVER. Tomorrow is unpredictable.
NEVER GIVE UP! NEVER give up on your marriage. I have seen so many people get married and when times get rough, they bail. Couples get through marriage by being together and keeping at it as a team. The only type of marriage I can judge is our marriage. We have a special kind of marriage, because of the military. Military wives are taught to be strong and to never give up. We have a strong unconditional love for our husbands and we are filled with so much pride for them. We understand the saying, “The military wife fights the first battle when she kisses her husband good-bye.” We don’t take our love for granted. We have learned the art of letting the silly, unimportant things go. We know the importance of letting each other now how much we love and appreciate each other. No matter how difficult marriages get, you HAVE to lean on each other for support.
FAITH My husband and I believe in God. I am not saying that everyone has to have God in their marriage to have a successful one. I’m definitely not starting a religious debate here. But, my husband and I didn’t really have God in our marriage at first. Our relationship with God became stronger once he deployed to Iraq. God, man, He’s amazing. He has given me the patience and strength I need to survive deployment. He has been there to heal my wounds, comfort me, and listen to my complaints and gripes. He has brought my husband and I closer together. We both pray, talk to the Lord, and put our marriage into the Lord’s hands. He is the only person we depend on to help us. God will be there for us until the end. I thank Him for all the wonderful blessings he has brought into our lives and into our marriage. If it wasn’t for Him, we wouldn’t be where we are today!!
These are my tips for a successful marriage, based on my marriage. You may have different points/opinions. If so, I’d love to hear about them!